Motherly Advice...

I'm always quick to give it. Now I need some back.

If you're a regular visitor to my blog you know I'm not one for 'long posts'....but today is going to be one of those long posts, know up front that I appreciate you hanging in there!! xo!

I find myself this morning at a very 'cosmic' place, for lack of a better word. It's as if all my thoughts, concerns, and fears have molded together in my mind and brought me here. It's not a good cosmic place-I'm not comfortable in it.

The best way to tell you about this is to go back a couple of days. On Thursday of this week, two teens (17 & 16) were killed in a car accident about an hour or so north of our home. Speed.
They were speeding on a highway, tried to divert lanes and lost control. The male driver (17) was thrown from the vehicle, the female passenger (16) was dead and trapped in the car for hours. They had just left school, her parents believed she was riding the bus home. I didn't know these two teens, but the story left me in tears, literally.

I spent my day in melonchally. I just couldn't shake the whole story and the pictures of it. Most of you know I have a 17 year old daughter-Hannah- who's been driving for about 6 months now and like alot of parents at this time of life, well-I pray alot.

Hannah is not one to make bad decisions. She makes me so proud all of the time I have to pinch myself. She's about a straight A student with realistic goals in life. She is always quick to dismiss herself from the 'wrong crowd' and I so admire this. Pretty much an all-around perfect child. Lucky mom huh? I think so too.

Yesterday, my dear friend PJ did a wonderful post about being a 'good mom'. If you haven't seen it you should go check it out....very thought provoking. I loved it because it so spoke to me, it's one of my favorite subjects. I commented about how being a good mom to me was about always being dilligent at it...be quick to learn from your mistakes and keep at it.

Okay...now to last night. I let Hannah go with a friends family to a Halloween haunted house- almost 2 hours north of us. I knew this meant she'd be home late, driving later at night than I ever let her before (illegal mind you) but I let her go. I didn't like it but it was one of those very few times I conceded. Big mistake, mom. Here comes the icky part of my story...at 1:30 am this morning I got a call from a State Trooper. He had just pulled Hannah over for speeding, he was very concerned, and rightly so...85mph in a 50mph zone. I was-am still devastated. I thanked him for what I believe was an act of 'saving my daughters life'. I've barely slept since.

I realize that some of you reading this have children that are older and grown, and have been through this in one way or another, and maybe think, well....'it's part of growing up, for parent and child-it will be okay.' I think that too, after all, my son is 22 and we did the speeding ticket thing with him and got through it...part of life. But for some reason...this feels different.

I feel lost, like I don't even know how to handle it this time, mostly because it was so out of character for her and so against all I've tried to instill in her. After all, like I wrote in PJ's comments, I believe that children live what they are taught. So which lesson did this teacher miss? Which chapter did I skip over? 85 in a 50 remember. How do I even approach this? If I missed that chapter -and didn't even know it- what else did I miss???

It is likely that she will lose her license...what judge in his right mind, two weeks from now and in light of the recent teenage speeding accident involving teens-is not going to take her license? I told her last night this was possible, and I won't be pleading for her in any way shape or form, under any circumstances. It goes against everything I believe to stand up for a child who was wrong in their actions. She's pretty devastated. I ended it with ...Hannah, I love you more than you know, and when we are in court on Nov 16th, I'll be thanking God that I'm only in court and not at the cemetary.

That is what the judge will do I'm pretty sure-what I am unsure of is what I should do. Do I let her drive from now till then-at all? Do I take the keys, make her take the school bus to school, which will devastate her? Do I ground her? I've never had to ground her before. Is what I'm pretty sure the court will do punishment enough? Or is this one of the areas parents must be the really bad guy, which amounts to ruining her junior year in highschool, at least in her eyes. I have to decide what to do-at least until the Nov 16th court date, at which time someone else will decide.

I'm honestly lost on this...and your thoughts will be so appreciated-I don't want to miss any more chapters.

Life full of Romance....

I'm so honored to be included in an Etsy treasury!
Life full of Romance by Vart....here are a few of the items included

I've been included in treasuries before, just never one that made the

front page

of etsy. But if it gets alot of clicks and comments...

it {Life full of romance}

just might make it to the front page!

Am I suggesting that you go there {Life full of romance} and click and comment away???

Yes!

but only if you want...I'm not begging for you to go there {Life full of romance} or anything...

but look what sign she chose for the treasury....

I LOVE YOU!!

so.........if you go

{to Life full of romance} I'll love you forever!!

Candy Cane with your hot chocolate?

Just a quick post today...still busy with custom orders but finding time for some new Christmas signs!

yes....I said Christmas...sorry, but it will be here before you know it!



Just listed in my etsy shop....



hope you are enjoying your day! I'm off to paint, paint, paint!!

The chocolate hunt....

it's nippy outside... 'nippy' ...that's the only word that comes to mind. I know, what am I going to do when winter comes? My dad used to, still does, always say that to me. But it takes a bit for me to get used to the change in temperatures...hopefully by the time winter comes I'll have acclimated. (Is that a word?)

Back to nippy...hot chocolate...that's all I can think of today. Hot-hot-warm-you-to-your-toes-chocolate!

Found some on etsy...(click on photos to go to their shops!)

from tetoncocoacompany

more warm chocolate tidbits on etsy...

from loveandknit

from donidodesigns

from yarnling

from loveling


I'm getting warmer!

It's a great day to

(from the people at the you are beautiful project)

say something
nice.

Don't you think?

That's what I woke up thinking this morning...and had to share it.

I'll start...

"you are beautiful!!"

Hello

sweet friends! ...just stopping in to say hello & let you know I'm still here!
I just realized I hadn't posted in over a week..??? hmmm...Well, that was one fast week! I've been busy as a beaver here, and today will be no different.We had a wild and windy storm blow through the state yesterday and look what it did to my beautiful wisteria!

~it's supposed to be up on the garage and then it grows over the lean-to and some even under the lean-to.....

I had lights intertwined in it and it was one of my favorite places to sit- back under the lean-to with the garden in full view...
later when my son the... monkey in the tree with the chainsaw
arborist get's home, we'll try to save it!

Hope everyone has a beautiful fall like weekend!